Sex is the foundation of any good relationship. Without it, sexual frustration reaches an all time high, and women become unsatisfied. When you have great sex however, everything else seems to naturally fall into place.
Unfortunately, far too many men can’t please their woman. They spend all kinds of money on weird creams and pills to perform better in bed, when really, the truth is a lot more simple than you might think.
In today’s article, I’d like to explain how you can please your woman in bed, and have a much better relationship. So with that in mind, here’s four simple things that women want in bed.
Women want a man who knows what he wants. It’s not attractive to stammer around and be uncertain of yourself; it is attractive to be certain of who you are, and to go after what you want.
When you’re learning how to fuck a girl, it’s important to keep this in mind:
While there may be some women who will disagree, most of us want the man to take charge.
No, it isn’t “sweet” when you ask us if you can “proceed” like some scared little boy.
Just take what you want, and do it unapologetically.
Obviously don’t be an idiot. If we back up or seem hesitant, please do ask if something’s wrong.
But most of the time, when you just take charge in the bedroom, it’s a HUGE turn on.
Side note from Jon: Sex is a microcosm of life, guys. If you’re confident, aggressive, and dominant in the bedroom, it’s a sign that you act that way towards LIFE. Anyways, continue…
Again, we don’t want some little boy who we need to TEACH how to be a man. Grow a pair and start taking charge, in the bedroom and in your relationship.
You’re the man. Act like it.
Don’t be unaware of how she feels. Always make sure she’s comfortable, but at the same time, don’t be too afraid to confidently make a move on her. When in doubt, just try and see how she responds.
Have you ever wondered why “50 Shades of Gray” is the top selling romance novel of all time? It’s because women crave a man who’s dominant. You can deny it all you want, but take a look at some of these quotes from 50 Shades of Gray:
“He grabs me suddenly and yanks me up against him, one hand at my back holding me to him and the other fisting in my hair.
“You’re one challenging woman,” He kisses me, forcing my lips apart with his tongue, taking no prisoners.
“It’s taking all my self-control not to fuck you on the hood of this car, just to show you that you’re mine, and if I want to buy you a fucking car, I’ll buy you a fucking car,” he growls.”
While you need to balance dominance with an attentiveness to if she’s comfortable or not, it’s always good to err on the side of caution here. Be as dominant as you can, while still being sure to make her comfortable and at ease.
3. More Foreplay
Generally speaking, women want more foreplay. If you’ve ever wondered how to turn a girl on, this is it: spend as much time as you possibly can with foreplay. Kissing, making out, grabbing her, touching her, and teasing her.
In general, most guys don’t spend enough time with foreplay. On average, you should spend at least 10-15 minutes with foreplay. In fact, take a look at what WebMD has to say about the importance of foreplay:
“It’s particularly important for women to have successful foreplay because it takes a woman a longer time [than a man] to get up to the level of arousal needed to orgasm,” says “Dr. Ruth” Westheimer, EdD, a psychosexual therapist, professor at New York University, and lecturer at Yale and Princeton universities.
A man can just think about sex and have an erection, but for most women, wanting sex is not enough, says Westheimer. Foreplay serves a physical and emotional purpose, helping prepare both mind and body for sex. Many women need to be kissed, hugged, and caressed to create lubrication in the vagina, which is important for comfortable intercourse.
When in doubt, spend more time with foreplay. This is one of the simplest things a man can do to immediately please his woman more. In fact, this is so deceivingly obvious and simple, that many men underestimate just how well it can work.
In short, women want a man who is confident, dominant, and assertive in the bedroom. They also want a good emotional connection, however, and a lot of foreplay.
Being able to give your girlfriend or wife really good sex is important to sustain a long lasting relationship. So while you can choose to follow this advice (which I highly recommend), you can also choose to neglect it. Ignore at your own risk.