Have you ever wanted to know how to get a girl’s number? Well, in this article I’m going to be discussing the critical pillars of “text game” and explaining how you can get a girl’s number (sometimes without even asking).
Lots of guys want to improve their dating lives, and meet more women, so it’s very important that you learn how to do these things. If you never learn how to get a girl’s number, your dating pool will be severely limited.
So, with this in mind, let’s talk about how to get a girl’s number, and some of the biggest mistakes guys make with these things.
How to Get A Girl’s Number
The biggest secret to getting a girl’s number is simply ASKING, but you have to do it at the right time. Lots of guys think there’s some magic trick, or super crazy mind-hack you can do, but this is not the case.
Asking for a girl’s number is very simple, when you follow this two step process:
- Show Value
- Ask For Her Number (With An Excuse)
That’s it. It’s actually quite simple once you understand these things, so let’s explain further.
The first thing you need to do is show value. This simply means you demonstrate that you are an attractive man, and that you two have some sort of commonalities, which makes her more likely to be interested in you.
You can do this in many ways, such as:
- Being physically attractive
- Being highly confident
- Focusing on commonalities with her
If you aren’t already dressing well and working out in the gym, then you need to start doing these things immediately. This will make it much easier to get a girl’s number, since you already look very attractive to her.
You must also learn how to cultivate inner confidence, which is very attractive to women. This comes from conquering numerous goals, time and time again, and not being afraid of any sort of rejection (which ironically enough comes from being rejected numerous times).
Lastly, you can focus on commonalities with her. This is the big key that guys don’t get. You can’t just be attractive to get her number (unless you look like a model). You also have to have commonalities with her.
This can be things like:
- You both enjoy the same hobbies
- You both like the same movies
- You both take the same yoga/gym class
- You both went to the same high school or college
Any sort of commonalities is always good, so you want to focus on finding these when you’re trying to get a girl’s number. Then, once you have her number, it’s time to focus on the next part: text game.
Text Game 101
Text game, or knowing how to text a girl very well, is extremely important. If you can get a girl’s number, but don’t know how to text her very well, that number will never turn into a date, or something even more.
Here are the biggest things to understand with text game:
There’s four types of texts that women send you, and as I said, you’ll need to respond differently for each one. For some of these texts, you need to start making plans to hang out right away, and for others you may have to amplify your frame. It all depends on what she texts you.
Here’s a list of the four types of texts women send you, from “least interested” all the way to “most interested”:
- Shit Tests
Most guys don’t make it past the third type of text, because they simply don’t know how to text girls. As a matter of fact, my business partner Mark Sing put it best: “Dude, I’ve had so many people ask me to text girls for them. They just don’t get it—I’ve even though about charging them a fee per text!”
Once you understand these four types of texts that women will send you, you can begin to develop better text game. Unfortunately, most guys never get past the “silence” stage, but this is very common so do not worry.
Keep talking, and continue having fun. Once you do this, she will begin to test you, to see how confident you are. This is the second type of text game that women will sometimes play. Do not be afraid, and simply do not be affected by it.
Third, is the informational/logical phase. This is very good, because it means you’re making progress. It means she’s opening up to you, but once you are here, you need to push towards the emotional, positive, and even sometimes sexual phase.
This is the best type of texting to do with a girl. It’s when you’re both teasing each other, bantering back and forth, and the biggest thing to keep in mind is that it is FUN. Women want to feel emotions, especially with a man they are considering dating, so you must master this.
Once you learn to navigate these phases, you will be 100% better at text game, at getting a girl’s number, and your dating life will become drastically better. The key is to not give up, and to continue, however.
Summary (The #1 Key)
The biggest part is to not give up, as I said. Many guys get rejected once or twice, and they let it get them down, but you need to understand something. Most rejection is never personal – in fact, rejection is almost always about them, and not you.
If you simply follow this process, and learn how to get a girl’s number, you will be doing better in your dating life than 99% of guys. From here, once you learn some basic text game (as described above) you will be a king of dating.